He isn't helpful..?

You were definitely not wrong, but timing is everything. Did you actually want him to listen, or you just wanted to vent? Because starting an argument first thing in the morning is NOT the best way to get him to change his behavior. Wait until all children are in bed, make yourself some tea, relax on the couch, and THEN TALK about what you are FEELING. Tell him you are frustrated, tired, etc etc. Then let HIM talk. Listen to what he has to say. He may feel inadequate, left out, etc. If it is truly a partnership, you will listen to him, and try to work out the issues.